Using The Good Dishes

Posted by Dani on March 17, 2014

Hand-made porcelain daisy plates (
I did a brave thing today.

It was a bit of a battle, but the side that is trying to change things up around here finally won.

I came home with a set of custom designed dinner plates, made for me by my friend, the talented potter Monica Johnston of Frantic Farms Clay and Glass. Her work is amazing. And she is amazing. So I’m in love with my plates for 2 good reasons.

I have wanted these plates FOR 10 YEARS.

Hand-made porcelain daisy plates (

What took me so long to order them? It was all of those typical reasons that put just about everything else in the family ahead.

It’s the mom syndrome. Because how can beautiful handmade plates be more important than paying for swimming lessons for your kids? And all the other things that kids need and want, and the countless other practical necessities that a typical suburban, mortgage-paying life demands of you. Like a million other woman, I put myself at the bottom of the list. Pretty plates for Dani just never quite seemed to be necessary.

Whenever I saw Monica, I figured I would order them “next time.” That turned into 10 years. Funny how life does that.

Hand-made porcelain daisy plates (

I am just coming out of this put-mom-at-the-bottom-of-the-list fog I have been stuck in for so long. I even noticed lately how many new things my girls have, with names like Aritzia and Lululemon, while my closet is full of OLD things. Time to change things up.

So I decided to finally order my plates, and now I have a tableful of these lovelies. And then it was decision time.

Do I throw out my old well-used-but-perfectly-serviceable plates and ACTUALLY USE THESE INSTEAD? Like for EVERY DAY?

Or do I save these for special occasions?

Hand-made porcelain daisy plates (

And then the internal battle began. Nothing wrong with a few chips and scratches. The old one’s are perfectly good. What if I break one of my new ones? I can keep the good ones for nicer dinners. Blah blah blah.

But a tiny little voice kept whispering, “But Dani, these are BEAUTIFUL. And you love them. And life is flying by. They are special. Life should be special.”

I remember a friend of ours saying something to me once that made a big impression. He was head of luxury porcelain company Nymphenburg. They were once owned by the Bavarian royal family and make dinner sets for Popes and kings and yachts – that kind of thing. A cup and saucer costs about $3000. I asked him who bought his products. He answered that regular people did, but they collected them slowly. I asked why, incredulous that anyone would spend that much money for a cup and saucer. He said to me, “Dani, why are you going to go to the trouble of cooking a beautiful meal for your family and then put it on a horrible plate?” He said this as I handed him his dinner on my $3.99 HomeSense plate. I cringed a little.

So back to my new dishes. New Dani won the battle. Old Dani argued a little, but gave in. The everyday dishes are being packed away for my daughter to use when she moves into an apartment next year at university.

And I’m using the good dishes. If they break, I’ll just call up my friend Monica and ask her to make some more.

New Dani’s thinking of ordering the matching salad plates.

Hand-made porcelain daisy plates (


24 Responses to “Using The Good Dishes”

  1. Christina says:

    A great post! Those plates ARE gorgeous – your friend did an amazing job. And this is a nice little reminder that life really does go by, so why not make each moment special? It’s the little things that we remember anyway – the family conversations at the dinner table, the friends who come over for a small potluck dinner party, and the late night snacks as you stay up to watch movies till 3am. That’s what these are for. So use ’em! Good job, using the good dishes 🙂

    • Dani says:

      Thanks so much for your comment Christina! You’re so right, life flies by and every day counts. Easy to forget, and so important to remember. And I have to say I am really enjoying the dishes – they make me happy each time I take them out. Thanks for dropping in and visiting!

  2. Go Dani!!!!!! I love that new Dani won out, and you know, old Dani has a practical solution, so all is right in the world… and just so you don’t feel alone, my closet sounds like yours, and my daughter’s is filled with, well, the same names as your daughters’! Yes, definitely order the salad plates!! 😉

  3. These plates are beautiful! Your friend is really talented! So many beautiful things on her website!

    • Dani says:

      Thanks so much! I am really loving the plates, and am thinking about salad plates next. It’s so nice to use something hand made, and I love pretty well anything Monica makes. Thanks for dropping by!

  4. I’d use them, heck you waited long enough for them!! Pretty plates for sure, love the flowers in different colours!

    • Dani says:

      Good point – I did wait long enough! Thanks Heather, they are pretty, and I’m really enjoying them. Gonna do a little more of this 😉

  5. I have tears… “He said this as I handed him his dinner on my $3.99 HomeSense plate. I cringed a little.” That really cracked me up! Still laughing, not gonna lie! Hahaahahahahha

    Use these beautiful dishes EVERY day, or at the very least when that friend comes over! bahahahahahaha

    That really struck my funny bone! :’)

    • Dani says:

      It was actually funny, but not so much at the time 😉 And using them is feeling really good. New Dani has got things figured out a little better!

  6. Dani your points are so valid, especially so for moms. I need to start using my good plates a bit more often. And by the way those plates are BEAUTIFUL!!!

    • Dani says:

      Thanks Suzanne. So easy for moms to put any “extras’ on the backburner. There’s always something else that seems to take priority. I think we can all relate!

  7. Good for you Dani. It’s not easy to win that battle. Us moms have a difficult time (most of us).

    P.s. Maybe order another set, it’s not a bad idea a) in case you get “more” people over or b) if it brakes, it’s just ‘done’. the plates are there already. c) you never know if your friend retires


  8. Brandy says:

    Oh my goodness! Those plates are gorgeous! Now, I want a set.

    And same here Dani, the kids always get priority and I take a back seat. I am starting to get better. I wrote this post a few years ago when I started blogging…

    • Dani says:

      It’s natural I think to put priority on the kids, and really easy to forget about yourself. I do think in retrospect I went a little too far with that, and could have taken care of myself a little better. But no time like the present, right? Thanks so much for dropping in!

  9. paula schuck says:

    Oh Dani!! They have matching salad plates?. I would order these in a heartbeat. Sp pretty~!!! I wonder if she has other designs. DH would hate the flowers but I love them. Is there anything without flowers. I will peek through the post again and see if I can find the web site. Extremely pretty!

    • Dani says:

      Thanks Paula – very good advice 😉 She has lots of designs, and did the daisies for me because I chose that. When I get salad plates, I’ll do something different but complimentary. That’s the fun when you get something custom made, right? Thanks for dropping by!

  10. I like the way the new Dani is thinking! Life is short so live it well. And the plates are super adorable.

    • Dani says:

      Thanks Vanessa – so true – the days turn into years before you know it. I kind of like where new Dani is going too 😉

  11. Love this post. And, you are right – life should be beautiful! It’s the reason I buy myself flowers, it’s the reason we have “good plates” everyday and it’s the reason why I choose travel over things (whenever I can).
    Definitely order the salad plates! And, remember if one breaks then you still have all the memories of the meals you ate off of it before it was gone.

    • Dani says:

      Sounds like you have it right, Kerrie! I totally agree with you, but find it too easy to forget sometimes as I get caught up in life. Great advice, especially the part about getting the salad plates 😉

  12. Jo-Anna says:

    I absolutely agree – use the good dishes! I made a decision a couple of years ago to do the same thing and use our wedding dishes as our every day dishes – gasp! But it feels great to see and use them everyday…life is too short! Btw, these dishes of yours are gorgeous!!

    • Dani says:

      “Gasp” is right – I don’t know anyone who uses their wedding dishes every day. That is so awesome! You are obviously way ahead of me 😉

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